I moved in with my fiancé a year ago.... Wanted to move out the second day!. He showed his true colors quick drinks comes home every evening and is verbally abusive. It took til last week to realize he's an alcoholic and I can't do anything about it. I think the best thing to do for anyone is to leave them.Stay gone for good or til they unscrew themselves

I'm reading this article, as my husband of 7 years, lays in a hospital bed suffering from yet another pancreatic attack. The nurse told him he could just drop dead at any given moment if he continues to drink. Something we have heard repeatedly over the past 7 years. He's been in rehab twice over the past two years, and it's true, he won't change until he's ready and hopefully not too late. He's facing prison time due to the alcohol right now. I know I'm a co dependent enabler and its always easy for others to say...leave him, walk away, etc.. I have left him and walked away but an alcoholic is very manipulative and I always go back. I love him but I know I have to love myself more. I recently became ill with what the doctor said was "stress induced shingles" and I know it's the stress of dealing with him. So I continue to pray for myself and him and others going thru this pain. We are not alone.

I've been with my partner 7yrs, same blaming, verbal crap, I cop 6 nights out of 7 each week, he acts like a complete jerk, latest was we were made to leave a beautiful wedding early cos he was refused service at the bar & I was looking so forward to celebrating that night, hadn't attended a wedding in over 10 years! I have to drive pretty much everywhere if it's after midday cos he's 'on it'. I've left several times, last time jumped in my car and drove 3000kms away..My biggest problem is we are few weeks off signing a home loan, after reading the story re: having a mortage with an alcoholic partner, I'm in two minds, do I walk away and miss out on loan, that I've been striving for the last 2 years? Giving up a lot to save including keeping a shitbox car that keeps stalling on me. Or do I build the home, then try sell my half if I'm at breaking point, which is pretty inevitable:( What to do??

My boyfriend has to continuously drink and I have had enough as he has a better relationship with beer than me. I have two young children from a previous relationship and I don't think its fair for them to be around alcohol all the time, his a nice guy but the alcohol has started to put me off, so I think its best to go on a break and leave him to think about what his life will be like without any of us. Another thing is that since we got together we have not spent one day apart. Needie he is im not allowed stay out without him so I quess im risking our relationship now as I need time out.

I have been with my husband for 13 years. He was a college partier, something I chalked up as a phase! We were married and the drinking was worse. He would sit in the garage and just drink by himself. Come in drunk and argue with me if I say the wrong thing. He has gotten better. We now have 3 children. My advice to anyone is that it gets harder to live with. We have a house, bank acct, cars, family, dog, etc. I am left dealing with his behavior. I tried the controlling, the covering up, the avoiding, the threats, the ultimatums, drinking with him, etc. nothing works. I don't nag any more. I am working on my control. It makes me hate myself. I feel so helpless!! I do know I have a line and my mind is made up to leave the very second this affects one of our children. I grew up with drug addicts and alcoholics... I will not have this be there childhood tragedy to recover from on a psych couch!

I live at home with my parents....my daughter and boyfriend moved with me back home when we had money troubles.....my parents ARE BOTH ALCOHOLICS....my dad just gets tired and goes to bed...my mom gets evil...she tries to teach my daughter her spelling words while she's sloshing get her words....or tries to make her eat things she doesn't want...most times she just runs to her room to hide...I hate that I'm having to put her thru all of this....I,my at my wits end with all of it

The article is very truthful and hosest straight to the point, I have been married for 35 yrs my hisband alcholism is now spiralling out of control, I dread every single minute of christmas day because the more he drinks the more abusive he can become, however some of the comments have given me quite a lot to think about. I now feel a bit more prepared for christmas as I intend to leave the house if things do get out of control.

I've been living with an alcoholic for 2 years I drink as much as he does now its having a horrible effect on everyone around us including me I love him to bits he's such a loving kind funny man when he's sober but every night he needs a drink I'm scared I don't want to lose him but I wNt him to stop for both our sakes we talk every night barely watch telly but we drink maybe I'm getting as bad as him but I feel alone and helpless I don't no where to turn for help and advice he becomes abusive mentally sometimes

I truly love my husband .We dated for 8 months and have been married almost 5 years. I left once but he convinced me he would cut down. His behavior has gotten worse . He is verbally and emotionally abusive. reasoning with someone drunk accomplishes absolutely nothing. Hes a good man when he's sober. I have made excuses for him so I wont lose seeing my grandkids. I absolutely dread holidays or him having time off and I can tell by his voice fighting is coming. I usually go into my office but he follows me. I have no where to go, we only have 1 car and he makes the payment. It has taken me this long to realize he cant change and I'm preparing to leave but not till I have some money saved. At this point I have to save myself becuz he is just simply toxic to me.

I am a 15 year old girl and daughter to addict for three years now. Many may say I'm too young to know what am I talking about, but sadly I have experienced and learned more than I should have about this topic for my age. It wasn't until three years ago that my mother started to tell me about my father's past. His dumb career moves and unfaithful acts changed my thought of him forever. My father made his mistakes six years ago and will never live a day without hearing it because my mother brings it up every day. She constantly lives in the past. She drinks about every day and its very scary. My mother blames my dad for why she drinks and my dad blames my mom for why he cheated. Since I learned this knowledge few years back my parents often used me a pond, like in chess. In this past year I have been pushed to my limit. I can't go a few days without fighting with my mom, she says things I can no longer take, I constantly find a four pack of these small wine bottle things in weird places, and I even got in a car accident with her. Luckily, we just hit a sign and no one was hurt. My parents constantly throw the word "divorce" around like it's meaningless. When my mom is sober, she is the women I hope to be. But when she drives off in late afternoon I know that night won't be as pleasant. Last week was the first time my parents involved my younger brothers, one is 12 and one is nine. And early today my brother came into my room and asked if mom was drunk. I have learned to cop with my parents. It's hard, to go to school and pretend everything is okay, I'm not aloud to tell anyone and I don't go to therapy. How am I suppose to protect brothers from their own mothers habits? Teach them how to cop with something I do not fully understand. My dad tries to help. I have been researching alcoholism and today I came across this article and read these comments. All accurate and similar. I don't know how to deal with my brothers or my mother exactly but this helped me feel less alone. Thank you for this article, and I would like to say that a lot of people are struggling with abuse of alcohol in there family, no matter what age. I pray for them and the ones who are sick to get better.