How can one leave your alcoholic partner when your kids and animals adore him? Guess who will forever be the fall guy? The inconsistencies, the lies, the verbal abuse (only when the children are not present), and other indignities make my life miserable. But to endure the hatred of my children would be worse than miserable. It would be hell.

Reading this article had me in tears cause it's so right,all of it I've been with my alcoholic husband since I was 16,I'm almost 40 now.He is a functional alcoholic but everything is down to me. I work 2jobs to put our eldest daughter through college,while he sits at home playing computer games I can't remember the last time I was really happy He has been sick for past few months and had some tests done, last week he was told by the doctors that he has liver disease,he has to stop drinking immediately or it will kill him, he waited 3days to tell me,cause he wanted to keep drinking He has not drank the past 5nights but I feel like I'm living on a knife edge I'm on edge just waiting for him to drink again as we have been here before

I have been married to my functioning alcoholic husband for 11 years, I do not drink, through his 1 year jail term 10 years ago (oddly not related to alcohol ) and most recently his medical detox and 60 day rehab stint last August. After 2 months of his being sober in February 2016, he chose to begin drinking 2 beers a day to "feel normal again" which has now escalated to a 6 pack a day. He works nights, I work days so I can not and do not want to "babysit" him, the only reason I am still with him is because I am a co-owner with him on the house mortgage and can not afford the house without his paycheck- nor could he without mine. Anyway "blah blah blah" enough about him- IT HAS BEEN ALL ABOUT HIM FOR 11 years- now about me. Clearly I am SO ANGRY at him and myself for trusting his promises, by his betrayal to drink again and resent him for making beer his priority. Yes I have friends, yes I have hobbies, yes I have a job that requires me to work 60 hours a week-what I don't have is a marriage or a partner. So Somebody PLEASE tell me what the f*ck do I do with all this anger and disappointed I carry? Please don't tell me to go to Al-Anon, I tried that and was told his drinking was my fault, really is his not showering , not brushing his teeth and wearing the same clothes every day for 3 weeks my fault also? If I won the lottery tomorrow my first decision would be a divorce lawyer, so back to reality, my question is how do you resign your life to remain where you are stuck? Do I love him? sort of,,,but I love myself more.

My Wife is an alcoholic. To me she is just an empty shell functioning on alcohol. I cannot leave her as I have nowhere to go or the means to do it. I have to hold down a full time job to pay the bills while she spends lots of money on wine. My life consists of going to work, coming home about 6 then going to bed between 8 and 9. I dread the weekends. It's all very well saying leave her, I did for about 4 weeks, but spent the time sleeping on relatives sofas, while holding down my job. Her alcoholism has cost us dearly and I cannot believe the lack of care or support. How can I get guidance, I have to work 40 hours a week! I am writing this while she is lying on the bathroom floor after having fell on the shower door, breaking it from its hinges.

I live with my alcoholic wife. She gets angry when she drinks and trys to push all my buttons to argue. Most times I dont bite. I cant leave her i do love her but she refuses to stop. Dont argue with an alcoholic

Hardest thing living with an alcoholic ... Just today I asked my partner to leave because I can't take it no more he broke his heart but I hoped that the threat of losing me after 20 years and out teen children would scare him into sorting his problem .... It's it so bad he's stealing money I have to hide my purse he's sneaky and always seems to find away to get a drink .. When things don't go his way or I ask him to leave he will do and he will sit in a park and drink all day with no word of his where abouts so leaves me and the kids all day worried sick ... Not just that he has an issue with alcohol but he can not handle drink so I know he's outing him self in danger outside .... To me he cares about alcohol more than me and out children and it's breaking my heart I can't cope with it any more I feel weak because I can't try and help him any more bit feel strong because I made him leave :(

My husband is an alcoholic I have daughter 6y and if few weeks we will have a baby boy. I'm afraid 2 kids he drinks every Day and I have no Money to live him. No job I dont know how to live like that anymore help.

My husband is an alcoholic. We have been married for 11 years. We have had some really good times. When he is not drinking, he is kind and funny and loving. When he drinks, he turns into a monster. He has never hit me but i think i would rather him do that than talk to me, yell and curse me the way he does. I'm tired of hearing "I'm sorry'. I don't know what to do.

WOW I knew I wasn't alone but I didn't realize how NOT alone I truly am, every story has the same author it seems. I love my husband so much and I think about all the times we have when he is sober but when he drinks all my happy memories get erased by the pain and sadness I feel. Thank you for this article it has given me all the things not to do being that I have done 14 out of 15 things so much so that I just gave an ultimatum yesterday just to be told by my best friend that all I am doing is wasting my breath because he is going to let me down again. Thank you again for opening my eyes to this. I think I will look into classes myself.

My boyfriend 's an alcoholic. We've been together 8 years no children together (i have 4 from previous marriage~ im a widow and kids grown) It's getting worse. He's done sober for several months then starts again. When sober he picks me apart~ nothing is good enough and he's critical of me. When he's drinking he only does this when he drinks over a certain amount. The kind, caring, loving, romantic man is gone. We both work. I however work, come home, cook, clean and take care of his 81 year old mom (next door) . I try to squeeze time with my kids in when he's at work (if he's home he'll drink more and i come home with him sauced and it's hard to get into his world) even his mom finds reasons to interrupt my visits with kids. This past year has been hell. It's getting worse, he tells me never argue with a drunk and i try hard not to but he knows how to push my buttons~ saying mean things about me and my kids) he'll tell me I'm lying when i try to talk about it when he's sober. I've decided to record him (secretly) the next time he does this~ it still breaks my heart because words scar me and replay in my head. Lately I'm becoming angrier, less patient, and my tolerance level is at rock bottom. I had knee surgery a few months ago and probably overdid things trying not to burden him with my care. He tells me he wants to stop and that I'm not being supportive, that i like him buzzed. Doesn't matter if i say no i don't. We no longer go out, no more hikes, movies, social events. I no longer have a life. I can't be far away because of his mom or because if he's home and drinking it's worse. I no longer know what to do. I'm sad, lonely and angry